Here is how we as a genetic collective, not as individuals, see things.
The eldest son took the most damage from the Broken Father archetype, both in real time and over the long haul, and so his views of the father are ungrateful, skewed, heretical, and thus in our opinion wrong.
The eldest daughter (of the later mating) took the most damage from the Broken Mother archetype, and so her views of the mother are twisted, spiteful, also heretical, and thus in our opinion also wrong.
Much more could be said, particularly about the fey youngest daughter and about god help us the next generation, but …
This much is plenty big and bitter enough to swallow for a start, and so we leave it there.
So say we all.